Dear Rita: I manage a small team of employees in a close-knit office. Recently one of my employees told me in private that "he" is becoming a "she." I'm not sure how to deal with this. Do I call the employee "him" or "her"? I think when the other employees see him coming to work in women's clothing, they're going to freak out. What if he wants to use the women's restroom? I'm in totally over my head here!
-- Sincerely, Trying to Do the Right Thing
Dear Trying: This situation may be uncommon but it doesn't have to be difficult!
Let's begin by getting on the same page with some of the terminology. People whose gender identity is different from the gender they were assigned at birth are generally described as transgender. This term is also used to describe people whose gender expression . . .